Adoption is a very common thing which gives children all around the world a better chance at life. Adoption is around us everyday even though we may not realize it, everyday there are children all across the country being adopted into new and loving families. There are many different factors that contribute to a child being adopted but adopting is more known as the process in which a child moves permanently from one family to another for better living conditions. Adoption makes it possible for a child to be placed into a home with natural parents which in many cases children unfortunately may have no home at all. When looking at the adoption statistics in just the United States alone, you would be surprised with the numbers of children who are placed in foster care each year. The statistics that I found on theadoptionnetwork.com showed that around 428,000 children in the United States are placed in foster care each year, out of these 428,000 only about 135,000 are fortunate enough to be taken out of foster care and be adopted. More than 60% of children that are placed in foster care spend around 2-5 years in the system before being adopted. Nearly 100 million Americans have adoption in their immediate family, with 6 out of 10 Americans having personal experience with adoption meaning that themselves, a family member or a close friend has an adopted child.
The information that I found about the reasons why people adopt was found in an article “Choosing to adopt” by Kathryn Patricelli. When it comes to the reasons why people adopt their are many different factors although the most assumed reason is because a woman may not be able to conceive. Yes, one reason couples adopt may be that they are infertile meaning that they unfortunately are medically unable to bear a child. Some women unfortunately are never able to bear their own child but another reason why a women may be infertile could be her age. Female fertility begins to decline around the age of 35 and by age 45 it can be almost impossible for a woman to conceive naturally. Another reason for choosing to adopt a child could be because of the risk of passing on a genetic or medical condition, also a mother might not be able to risk a natural pregnancy due to her own health conditions which adoption may be her best option. Some families chose to adopt just to save a child and put a child in a stable home with a loving family which is a great option if you are fortunate enough to be able to do. Another common reason for adopting is because a couple may lack an appropriate partner. As we know it takes genetic material from both a man and woman to conceive a child, which in some cases their may be single woman or man with a desire to raise a child or homosexual couples may choose to go the adoption route to start a family rather than using a surrogate or sperm donor to produce a natural child.
The information that I found on children waiting to be adopted was found in an article “Where do the adopted children come from” by Kathryn Patricelli. Children who are waiting to be adopted can be due to several different circumstances one being a mother finding herself pregnant at a young age and feels that she is not ready to accept the responsibility that comes with caring for a child, she may find that adoption is her best option. A second reason may be a child being taken away from their parents due to drug abuse or other circumstances and being placed in foster care. The last reason may be a family being financially unable to care for their child, they may chose to place their child for adoption to put the child in better financial circumstance. When it comes to the question if there is a better age to adopt a child at meaning is it better to adopt them as an infant or a child there is no right or wrong answer because their can be pros and cons to adopting at either age. The whole purpose of adoption is to provide a child with a stable family and life, it shouldn’t matter if you are adopting an infant or a child either way it will be a challenge whether they are older or younger. All of the information about how raising an adopted child rather than your own biological child was found on Americanadoptions.com. Although adopting rather than biologically having your own child won’t change the way you parent your child there are a few ways that adopting will differ from raising your own biological child. By adopting, your child will not share your appearances which may impact your child’s needs for example your child needing glasses even though you and or your spouse have perfect vision, this is just one way that their appearance may not match yours.
The tips for learning how to deal with adoptive children starting to become more curious and ask more questions about their biological family I found on Americanadoptions.com as well. One tip for dealing with the child not sharing the same appearances as you is to learn how to appropriately answer any unwelcomed questions and comments. A second way adopting may differ is your child may have different personality traits meaning that you guys may not be interested in the same things, a tip for this is to be sure that both you and your child are open minded when it comes to trying new things that maybe one likes but the other may not. The last way that adopting may differ is your child might have different medical needs, your child may inherit genetic conditions from their biological parents which is why it is very important to ask about as much medical information about your child’s biological family to be sure that you are prepared. If you are an adoptive parent be sure that you have made it clear to your child that their feelings do matter and be sure that they feel comfortable asking you questions about their biological families because there will come a time where they become more curious. It is important for the child to feel that they are apart of your family but it is also important to learn more about their biological family, this may help them feel like they are even getting to know themselves better.
I have always loved children whether it be children in my family or just seeing other people with their children. I thought that researching what it is like to raise an adopted child and reasons behind people adopting would be an interesting thing to learn more about. I think that giving a child a stable home and stable family is a beautiful thing to do if a child isn’t fortunate enough to already have it. Personally I think that when it comes to adopting more people assume that only families that are unable to naturally bear their own child are the ones that want to adopt. I think that if more people looked into the statistics on how many children are placed into foster care and waiting to be adopted the numbers of successful adoptions would go up, because more families that already have biological children would consider it just as much as people who are unable to have their own children. Before seeing statistics of how many children are in foster care I never really thought about possibly adopting in the future even after having my own biological children. After doing research for this project I can honestly say that I would in the future consider adoption if I am fortunate enough to do so and change a child’s life.
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