April 12, 2018
The Untold Truth of lovers, Not Abuse
Seeing your crush that you always been wanting to be her or him is an exciting moment as you want nothing but the best for the two of you guys. These moments just bring joy and excitement as you see them in a bonding, emotional, and friendship goals. The truth is, some people are just plainly just want to connect emotional and sometimes not sexually at the moment as you want to figure out their personality traits. In “The Book of Unknown Americans” by Christina Henriquez, tells an amazing story about love, friendship, and a connection between Mayor and Maribel. It tells an amazing encounter
of how Maribel is seeing Mayor as a sweet nice guy in which reality, he is being a gentleman. Some may disagree about his intentions of him abusing Maribel, but in reality that never happened. Mayor never sexually abused Maribel because of his friendship and the differences between Mayor and Garrett’s intentions. I agree that Mayor wanted to support Maribel no matter what Maribel thought of him and wanted to show support in her because of her head injury.
In the beginning of the book, Mayor understood of what its meant too show support for her and made his intentions clear as he was showing support for her. For example, Mayor never abused her in any way possible such as physical abuse or emotional abuse by treating her bad. Garrett, However, clearly had bad intentions as he wanted nothing but to have physical emotions that was against her will. “And then, as I turned the corner, I saw her. Her back was against the cinder-block wall, and her hands were up over her head” (Page 121) Although Mayor wanted to be in a relationship with Maribel, he
never abused her in anyway possible. Although Maribel couldn’t regain her personality and make decisions of her own, Mayor always stood by her as they grew up the American culture, shared faith and values together, and went to school together. For example, Mayor wanted nothing but true intimacy and affection towards Maribel because he wanted to be by her side every step of her way, “Because I wanted to see her? Because I was trying to be romantic? Because I was trying to free her from the confines of her life? Because I wanted to show her the snow in the ocean, the thing that had made my mom fall in love with country, and I had wanted to make Maribel fall in love, too?” The different intentions were clear, and it shows how Mayor never abused or took advantage of Maribel in any way. Even though Mayor was in love with Maribel, he respected her even though she couldn’t make decisions on her own and most of her recovery was through Mayor.
The difference in between relationships and abuse is that one is with consent and the other is without consent. In the book, it shows the difference between Mayor’s intentions and Garrett intention as they both have different intentions and thoughts on Maribel. Garrett abused her when he intentionally abused her. I believe that is abuse on that because she never consented in any way to let him touch her like that and that was almost getting to the point of being potentially being raped. “Her eyes Squeezed” (Page 121) Although they were no signs of bruises or scratches on Maribel’s body, she felt that something was not right what Garrett did to her.
Abuse is not just physical touch but affects the mind of the victim. Maribel sadly can’t just say “DON’T TOUCH ME” or “STOP” because of her brain injury, that’s why her parents step in and made the conscious decision to help her.
The difference between Mayor and Garrett is that one was with true love and affection the other was not. The truth is, some people are just plainly just want to connect emotional and sometimes not sexually now as you want to figure out their personality traits. Mayor truly cared for her even sometimes lying to his parents about him playing for the soccer team and also failing his grades. These actions made him just be with her and be a friend to her. Some may disagree about his intentions of him abusing Maribel, but in reality that never happened. Mayor never sexually abused Maribel because of his friendship with her. The confusion of abuse and love is clearly explained as abuse was never in the books for Mayor.