One Friday afternoon I came back from school dropped my book-bag on the floor ran upstairs and changed into my favorite cute white tank with pink and green sparkly flowers, and put on some basic jean shorts. “I cant wait to go play outside with my friends.” Kc said. “I’ve been waiting on this day for the whole week!” While heading down the steps my mother said before I can go anywhere I must complete all of my chores, which included sweeping, washing the dishes, and cleaning my room. This may not seem like much now, but at that time it felt like my life was over PERIOD. In 2.5 seconds I could literally feel my blood starting to boil, and that’s when I blew up. “No! I’m going outside to play with my friends mom!” My moms face switched up so fast, you could see her eyebrows start to sink in her forehead, and a frown started to form on her face. At this moment I knew I was in some deep shit. “Did you just talk back to me? Come here.”My mom was furious. As I walked over to my mom, she said “When your parent or guardian tells you to do something you listen and do what you have to do, you didn’t think I knew you wanted to go outside? All I asked from you was to complete your chores and you would have been able to go outside, but out of anger not only did raise your voice at me you also talked back to me. That is very unacceptable and you will be punished for that.” Soon after my mom took a wooden spoon that we use for cooking and smacked the palm of my hands twice. I cried for a bit, then went and did my chores. After I completed them I still was able to go outside and play with my friends. After that day I thought about what my mom had said and never repeated that behavior again.
Is corporal punishment abuse? Should parents use corporal punishment? Corporal punishment is physical punishment, such as caning or flogging. I feel, if used the right way corporal punishment is acceptable in certain situations. This is because it goes hand in hand with growing and raising a child. With this topic, I will conduct a few reviews with some parents to see their ideas or viewpoint on corporal punishment. The preliminary claims for this argument is that corporal punishment is okay sometimes. So, what are the major effects on corporal punishment? Is it okay? Are the effects good or bad?
People look at corporal punishment as abuse, don’t get me wrong it can be turned into abuse very easily but its only determined by what means that were taken place before the actual event. Corporal punishment infused with discipline, isn’t abuse. If you state to a child that what they did was wrong, and then applying corporal punishment; that is the complete opposite from you seeing your child do something wrong and just striking them without informing or warning them of their actions. Thus forth, leading the child not knowing what’s going on and having unjustified actions that weren’t explained, and tension being built up by the child unknowingly.
Rachael a mother of four said that corporal punishment is normal in her home, and that’s how she grew up to become the woman she is today. Throughout her life she was taught through corporal punishment but discipline was mandatory. In her culture, she said “Yes, we do spank our kids but without discipline its senseless what is the point of spanking your child without cause?” There are also good outcomes from corporal punishment, when a child is disciplined not only do they learn their mistake but they see the major effect on why they shouldn’t have done it in the first place. Children then start grow respect for their parents or guardian because of such training. In due time, they also begin to develop good morals and their maturity level increases. This is because when conflicted between good and bad they would analyze the situation first before jumping into it which could have led to them getting in trouble.
Not everyone agrees with corporal punishment which is okay. Some people have different ways of raising their children which is perfectly understandable. Not everyone will agree to the terms of corporal punishment, and most cases on why people don’t agree with it is because sometimes it can get a little out of hand. My neighbor Stefanie said she received corporal punishment as a child. Her experience was very abusive, but luckily she managed to overcome that situation. In Stefanie’s case, her main reason on why she does not use corporal punishment is because of her experience as a child. “When I was younger my father used to hit me for every little thing I did, sometimes I didn’t know why he hit me but all I knew was to stay out of his way and I wouldn’t get hit.” In situations like this, corporal punishment is unacceptable. When corporal punishment is used wrongly that’s when it is viewed as abuse. This is Stefanie’s reason on why she herself, does not use corporal punishment. Not saying that she will abuse her kids but because of her experience as a child she wouldn’t want her children to even get a taste of what it feel like. Abuse is when someone is mistreated with cruelty or violence most often. When abuse takes the place of corporal punishment this is when it is not ok. Wendy another neighbor of mine has different views on corporal punishment. Her view was mostly turned into the direction of not using corporal punishment on her own kids. She said she didn’t experience corporal punishment, which is why she doesn’t use this kind of discipline. Wendy doesn’t see anything wrong with corporal punishment it’s just something she doesn’t do. “My kids are really good kids; at times, I do feel they get away with things they shouldn’t but overall they’re not bad kids at all.” Wendy said.
Juniper Russo disagrees with the whole idea of corporal punishment. In her article, she states that “Corporal punishment provides only a temporary change in a child’s behavior and tends to be counterproductive, and that no compelling evidence exists to support the notion that physical strikes can improve a child’s behavior or mental health.”
What about the adults who received corporal punishment themselves as a child, who grew up perfectly fine and now have children of their own? I’ll wait? There is no result saying that corporal punishment is detrimental to a child’s emotional and psychological health, if done the right way. The right way meaning one, addressing the issue to the child letting them know what they did/doing is wrong. Two telling them what the right thing to do is, and lastly explain that the reason why they are being punished is because of what they did. This then helps them remember not to repeat their mistake and helps them think twice for future situations.
Corporal punishment has its ups and downs. We may not like issuing corporal punishment to our children but it pays off eventually. Children tend to respect their parents more, have disciplined behavior, are more likely to make better choices for themselves, know the basic rights and wrongs to stay out of trouble, and even when in public they would know how to behave and handle themselves. My mother always said “train a child in the way you see fit and when they grow they will not depart from it. We know that corporal punishment is a type of physical punishment endorsed with discipline and communication. Not everyone views it the same way. Some may say its abuse and some may say it’s the best way to raise your child, but everyone is different. Should parents use corporal punishment to discipline their kids? Yes, don’t be afraid a little C.P. keeps the hard headed kids away.