11 September 2018
Bullies Raise Bullies
There has been a nationwide problem with bullying in schools for a generations. Could it be that the parents are the ones teaching their children to bully, therefore their child becomes the bully at school? Parents may be influencing bully-like behavior by verbally and physically being abusive to their child. Should schools take further action by investigating the home environment of children who bully?
Bullying is a problematic behavior and has the potential to be repeated over time. There are many forms of bullying that are used such as teasing, tripping, hitting, spreading rumors, threatening, alienating someone from a group or being verbally abusive. Now not only do kids bully at school but through social media, known as cyber bullying, which makes it easier to verbally bully someone behind a screen. Bullying statistics state, “When it comes to verbal bullying, this type of bullying is the most common type with about 77 percent of all students being bullied verbally in some way or another including mental bullying or even verbal abuse” (Bullying statistics). Words can be just as harmful or even more than physical abuse.
Children are very impressionable, constantly picking up on their parent’s behavior. In my opinion kids who bully are taught aggressive behavior at home, by a parent or guardian. The parent may be verbally or physically abusive, showing the child to mimic this behavior, and will now bully his or her peers at school. A child taking in a lot of aggressive behavior at home will then turn around and let out his or her frustration at school. Ambassador 4 kids club points out that “Bullying is a form of child abuse and 4 out of 10 children will drop out of high school this year because they are being bullied at school or abused at home”(Ambassador 4 kids club state). Back when I was in fourth grade, there was a girl by the name of Marnie who was relentlessly bullied by a boy named Eddie in our class. Marnie had a cleft lip and she was made fun of for it. During recess or while standing in line after lunch, Eddie the bully would call her herpes, tell her she was ugly and everyone should stay away from her because she has “cooties”. I would always feel so sorry for her but unfortunately, I never stood up for her because I was so timid and shy and scared that he would target me too. Some of the other kids would laugh along and encourage his mean jokes. Marnie would usually act like his mean words wouldn’t bother her and sometimes she would just laugh along with him. I guess that was her way of dealing with his bullying but she would have her bad days and cry over his remarks. Victims of bullying experience anxiety, depression and stress, which could cause them to want to stay home from school. According to Loveless, “Over 160,000 kids refuse to go to schools each day for fear of being bullied” (National Education Association). Eddie was always getting in trouble and had lots of behavioral issues. Now looking back it probably had a lot to do with things going on in his home. “Often a child who exhibits bullying behavior in school has been the target of that behavior in the home” (nea.org). With that being said, something need to been done starting in the child’s home to prevent this bullying behavior in schools.
Not only do the school need to protect those who are being bullied but also the bully’s as well, if found necessary. According to Bullying statistics, “One of the most unfortunate part of these school bullying statistics is that in about 85 percent of bullying cases no intervention or effort is made by teachers or administration members of the school to stop the bullying from taking place” (Bullying statistics). This is extremely unfortunate and teachers and staff need to take more steps to protect those being bullied and prevent those who are bullying. Therefore, they need to be trained to look for signs for bullying behavior. One of the step that needs to be looked into is why the child is bullying, and looking into what’s going on at home could provide the answer. When there is an issue with a child bullying, its the schools responsibility to evaluate the child and to look into the home life situation. Schools need to implement more resources for families of bullies. They should be responsible for professional family therapy, so it can help with the harsh environment at home. School are in the position to protect and provide support to children and the parents. So for this reason, school government funding need to provide professional help, such as family therapy for family of bullies. As a result, this will help to provide a different way of parenting so it can be less hostile at home and the child will be less likely to release his or her anger at school. Robinson writes, “Bullies that are more likely to dropout of school engage in criminal behavior, and later have more difficulty keeping jobs” (Robinson). If the school gets involved they can make a big difference in a child’s life. However, schools need to make sure parents are compliant and if the parent refuses, further action should be needed to take place by involving legal action.
Schools taking action by protecting the welfare of those who are being bullied both at home and at school should provide a safe and stress free environment for all students to see a significant drop in bullying. Parents also need to look at themselves and the home environment they are providing, so they can recognize the role that’s been contributing to bullying behavior. When parents provide a loving, hostile free environment it can make a big differences in a child behavior.
Ross, Dorothea. Ph.D. “Parents’ Role in Bullying and Intervention.” National Education Association. National Education Association, n.d. Web. 15 Sep. 2018.
Loveless, Becton. “Bullying Epidemic: Facts Statistics and Prevention.” Education Corner Education That Matters. Education Corner, n.d. Web. Sep.2018.
Robinson, Kathy. “Bullies and Victims: A Primer for Parents.” National Association of School Psychologists. National Association of School Psychologist, n.d. Web. 10 Sep 2018.
“Bullying Statistics.” Ambassador 4 Kids Club State. Ambassador 4 Kids Club State, n.d. Web. 9 Sep. 2018.