It’s your turn to speak up!

 

Bullying is something that many people have struggled with or maybe have just known others who have been bullied. The statistics that I found about bullying were on Pacer.org.  More than one out of every five being about 20.8% of students have reported being bullied at one point in their life. About 33% percent of the students reported being bullied at school indicated that they were bullied at least once or twice a month throughout the school year. Some ways that the students were bullied is by the bully doing things such as calling names, starting rumors, pushing, shoving or spitting on, and even being excluding others from activities. Bullied students reported that the bullying usually happens in places such as the hallways of school, the classrooms, on the school bus, in the bathrooms and sometimes even outside of the school grounds. About “10 percent of people said that bullying occurs at home and a number of adults stated that they had experienced bullying at work(Centralian advocate,Australia).”  The reasons for being bullied is often because of things like physical appearance, race/ethnicity, gender, disability, religion and sexual orientation.

The definition of a bully is to “use superior strength or influence to intimidate someone, typically to force someone to do what one wants.” There are many different reasons for why people bully things such as to get someone to do something not just to get someone to do something that they want. “Bullying is also caused by the bully having low self esteem, feeling angry or frustrated, struggling socially, being the victim of bullying themselves and even some just simply failing to recognize their behavior (healthdirect.gov).” Although many people think that bullying only happens at school this is not the case, there are also cases where bullying happens in a workplace or even just in the outside world. “Bullying is repeated acts and practices that are directed at one or more workers, which are unwanted by the victims which, may be done deliberately or unconsciously but clearly cause humiliation, offence, and distress(Einarsen 1999 pg 17…” According to ncab.org there are four different types of bullying such as physical bullying, social bullying, cyber bullying, and verbal bullying. Physical bullying being things such hitting, kicking, tripping, or damaging property. Social bullying being things such as lying and spreading rumors, encouraging others to socially exclude someone, damaging someone’s social reputation, etc. Cyberbullying includes things like abusive or hurtful texts or emails, intimidating others online, etc. Lastly verbal bullying being things like calling names, teasing, homophobic or racist remarks, etc.

When it comes to bullying their are many different options to choose from when trying to find a solution to this problem. You can do things such as teach your children how to treat others, teach your children how to stick up for other children if they are bystanders, if your child is being bullied intervene right away. Teaching your children how to treat others kindly and how to consider others feeling before they say something could really make a difference. Another thing that could help is teaching your children how to stand up for others when they see someone else being bullied rather it be them saying something to the bully or even them going to a teacher. Also be sure to make it a point to your child that it is important to communicate if they are having problems with bullying whether it be at school or outside of school. When doing research on the top things that could be solutions to stop bullying the top two solutions that I seen were teaching your children how to treat others and also making sure that your child knows that they can talk to you if they are having problems with other students at school, communication is very important.

It is very important to have a good relationship with your child and important that you as a parent make it a point to let your child know that communication is a good thing to have in order to speak up for themselves and tell either you the parent or a teacher. By your child knowing that it is important to communicate with others when something is wrong it can not only help them but in some cases could even be helpful to one of their friends or classmates. For example let’s say your child has a friend that is being bullied, by your child knowing that bullying is not okay he could possible tell his friend that he should tell a teacher or his parents and this will make the child tell an adult and get help with the situation. The number one thing that I have seen throughout my research that could be a solution to bullying is the way that you as a parent teach your child. It is important as a parent for you to model to your children how to treat others just like people say “Treat others as you want to be treated.” As a parent the way that you treat your children and the way that they see you treat others plays a big part in the way that they will be when they are older. Children almost always look up to their parents and if it’s not necessarily them looking up to them it’s just the child picking up what their parents do or how they are towards others because that’s what the child is always around. In general, parents need to instill in their children an ethic that includes respecting others and always acting and interacting with integrity, whether online or off (cyberbullying.org).”

When it comes to ways to teach your children how to treat others teaching them how to respect others and also be kind to others is important. When teaching respect to your children you also need to be sure that you show them that you respect them as well. When your child does something wrong rather than getting frustrated you need to know how to let your child know that it is not okay to do in a calm manner. By getting frustrated when disciplining your child and yelling at them could show them that you are being disrespectful to them and cause the child to think that it’s okay to yell when he or she gets frustrated. Also as a parent you should teach your child how to communicate when he or she is feeling frustrated, teach them words to describe their emotions , this will show them how to explain how they are feeling rather than your child getting frustrated and saying something disrespectful. Lastly when disciplining your child if you do or say something wrong be sure to apologize to your child, make your child recognize that they need to apologize to others when they do or say something wrong. When it comes to showing your kids how to be kind to others, the first thing you need to do as a parent is be kind to your child and model kind behavior. Another thing you can do to teach your kids kind behavior is to help your children recognize other people’s emotions around them, this will help them understand how other people around them are feeling. Lastly, teach your children the joys of helping those around them and how it could affect the person that they are helping.

In conclusion I really do believe that the way that you raise your child has the biggest impact on the way that they will treat others as they get older. As a child I remember always looking up to my parents and wanting to be like them in many ways. If more people knew how to be more kind to others and also respect others in my opinion things would be a lot different, we would see less bullying and more compassionate people on a day to day basis. “Parents are their children’s first teacher, and provide them with knowledge that is necessary for survival through direct instruction. They also influence them unintentionally through their own daily actions, such as conversing with other adults while their child is present (my.vanderbilt.edu).” I feel that many people do not understand that how you are raised as a child will affect you tremendously later on in life.

 

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